Closing the cabinet door does not require a lot of energy. Usually Donald Dangerous Strange
Donald, my three-year-old friend, always leaves the kitchen cabinets open. I’m coming home from work and the cutlery drawer will be outside, the cupboard where we keep our tea bags open, and the spice cabinet wide open. It’s dangerous. Aesthetically it makes everything look terrible.
I’m only 5ft and the doors open is the right height to hit my head. I also hit my hips on the trays. It’s painful and could be avoided if Donald just shut them down. I’m a bit of a klutz and his habit just makes it worse.
He says it’s my fault if I get into things and I should keep my eyes peeled. But if I just come back from work and rush into the kitchen or try to make a cup of tea, I don’t always see them.
Before we moved in together two years ago, Donald was living with his housemates. He says no one ever called him. I think that’s probably because he’s always been able to blame someone else, but now the two of us are inevitable.
I noticed his little frills as soon as we moved in together. The first few times I thought I was forgetting, but with Donald working from home in lockdown, it became clear who he was. My parents also commented on that when we stayed at their house. They said, “Oh, we can see Donald was here.”
I asked him why he leaves all these doors open. He says he is forgetting, he will open the lockers again after 10 minutes, so why bother closing them. That’s logical. He makes a lot of tea and gets up regularly – but he still has to take care more so I don’t have to shut everything down.
It’s weird. It doesn’t leave the wardrobe doors open or the toilet seat high and it’s also more tidy than me in other areas – I have more clothes and I leave a lot of things hanging around our apartment. It’s only in the kitchen.
Donald has to work harder. It’s an easy win in our relationship. If he can’t manage it, maybe we should get the baby locks. Or Donald should keep the tea and coffee on the counter so he doesn’t have to open that drawer.
I drink a lot of tea and coffee, so I like to always keep the cupboard door open
I don’t see any problem with leaving the kitchen cabinets open. I work from home and get up every 90 minutes to make a cup. On an average day, I drink three cups of tea, two coffees and (after nine in the evening) several cups of peppermint tea. It is best to keep the tea bag cabinet open throughout the day. This is my excuse and I think it is an excuse.
I know closing doors and drawers after you doesn’t take a lot of energy, but I don’t think about it when I’m at work. After two years of working remotely, I’m used to leaving things open. I can’t help it. I leave the cutlery cabinet open, as well as three cabinets containing spices, tea and coffee.
I also spend more time in the kitchen. I’m the god of the house, while Daisy brings home more bacon, so the kitchen is my domain. I should be able to do what I love with it.
I don’t believe Daisy’s argument that she’s a klutz and needs help not bumping into things. Her eyesight is better than hers – I wear glasses and she doesn’t. When I hit her hip on the stairs, I’m sympathetic. I’ll hear a gasp or “Ah!” From the kitchen and feeling a bit bad. But I don’t think this is my fault. You should watch where she is going. If you leave the drawer open, that doesn’t deny it. It’s not my responsibility if I get close to one.
When I go to sleep I close everything else – wardrobe doors, windows, bedroom and bathroom doors. Like Daisy says, I’m very tidy.
I’m Irish and Daisy is English – maybe it’s a cultural thing because we feel more comfortable. When I told one of my Irish friends of Daisy’s anger at forgetting me, he took a picture of his kitchen with several open drawers and said, “Finally, I feel visible. I do too.”
I don’t agree with the child lock suggestion. It will feel as though Daisy doesn’t trust me in my kitchen. I can do my best to shut things down after me if it helps Daisy get injured. And I love the idea of keeping coffee and tea on the counter. But this whole thing is trivial.
Guardian Readers Jury
Should Donald start closing kitchen cabinets?
seriously? This is a no-brainer. Closet doors left open are clearly a danger, so Donald should do the safe, adult thing instead of making loud excuses for teens. If he can’t learn this simple task, Daisy should look for a new apartment mate.
Donald feels “a little bad” when Daisy hurts herself in the draws he leaves open? He only makes his side of the bed? It looks like it’s just a bull’s head. He has a sense of closing lockers before bed, but he has to do it before Daisy gets home from work as well.
Donald should close the cabinets and/or keep tea and coffee on the counter. Daisy’s request is justified. Cabinets must be closed – otherwise they are just shelves with unnecessary snags.
Donald no longer lives with his comrades. He lives with someone he loves. He should look for ways to make her happy, not to boost his independence. It’s time to decide what Daisy means to him. Love is not competition, it is cooperation.
It would certainly bother me if my drawer was opened the other half from the left. Just put tea and coffee on the table. job done.
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